I have to write about something that has been on my mind and always comes to mind when I see some of you struggling with bad thoughts and your eating disorder voice.
You are not your body.
I know you’ve heard it a million times, and now this will be a million and one. But think about it…really, really think about it.
You are not the skin you’re in. The people that love you…they love you for YOU. If you gain ten pounds, will they stop loving you? NO! If you lose ten, will they love you more? Ummm, N-O.
Do they accompany you into the bathroom in the morning for your daily weigh-in, peer over the scale, and decide your worth based on that number? Wow, doesn’t that sound AWFUL? How awful would that be? But wait…do you do that to yourself?
Is your mood for the day dictated by that number? The 0.4 fluctuation from yesterday? Be it up or down–is your day ruled by that number?
When you base your happiness on that number you set yourself up for failure. Sure, you’re happy by a lower number, but you inevitably will be horrified and defeated by a slightly higher number. And that’s no way to live.
(First of all, I suggest getting rid of the scale completely. But that’s a separate post.)
You are N O T that number, nor are you the rolls on your tummy when you sit down, the cellulite on your thighs or the stretch marks on your butt.
You cannot base your worth on your physical body any longer.
Yes, your body is a part of you–but it is the most minuscule part. Is it not ironic that the most minuscule part of your being is held at he highest priority?
You are not your body.
You are your favorite song, the sport that you’re best at, the instrument you play.
You’re your favorite sugary cereal, your kind nature, your sense of humor.
You are a brother, sister, daughter, son, mother, father, wife, husband, cousin, uncle, aunt, grandparent…
You’re your Starbucks order. The fact that you like milk chocolate but despise dark, or vice versa.
You are creative, innovative, inspirational, and people look up to you.
You are your weird talents, your aspirations and your goals.
You are NOT your physical body.
Your body just gives you a means to exist in order to do and be all of those things above.
It is a blessing, but it is not meant to be changed into something it is not.
It is not meant to be starved, worked to exhaustion and injury, or looked upon with disgust.
Your body is NOT you, and you are not your body.
The sooner you realize this, the sooner you will actually begin to be happy in your skin.
I’m working on it every day, and I hope that you, too, won’t let your body rule you any longer.